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sublimatedangelHeh, taking a little break from the wood glue (only glue I could find, and I'm not making a childrens book of Arachne with scotch tape, dammit!) to update...
Katlyn & John's wedding was yesterday. Managed to get a wee bit of stuff done in the morning before getting prettied up and on the road. Much cell-phone CB talk going on which caused us to initially pass up our exit. After a few circles and more phone calls, we got there in plenty of time. I had the pleasure of carnation pinning with the help of Jennifer and that was fun. Plus it allowed me to snag a white carnation (men) instead of a red one (women) as the white showed up much more nicely against my sparkly red blouse.
The ceremony itself was really nice although I think I will always prefer the one at my own wedding. Minister nicely covered during the unity candle lighting (made awkward by the spring breezes) which made up for his (to my mind unseemly) long dwelling on the possibility of marriage problems & divorce and his "personal challenge" to us to help the couple if such problems come up in their future. Their vows were very nice and the emotion and devotion of the bride & groom was beautiful and touching.
The reception was nice once we switched around the (thankfully, quite fluid) seating, with really yummy food and great company. I love my friends, and it was so nice to chat and visit with them on such a happy day. Things wound down a little earlier than expected as some of those that had to leave early triggered others to go. Nate & I stayed longer to help with the cleaning up and left for home just before 9:00.
I mentioned to Nate that my perceptions of weddings have changed now that I'm a married woman. I used to enjoy weddings, and I'd think about how I'd want mine to be when the day came, and what I'd want different and what I'd want the same. Now, I don't have any of those thoughts, since my wedding day has come and gone. Instead, every ceremony is a new promise to make, a renewal of our vows and a reminder of everything that marriage means. When the officials talk about what love is, what marriage is, what it means to compromise & to care... he's talking about the bride & groom, but he's talking about us too, and I love the way it feels. I know marrying Nate was the right decision for me, because every wedding I attend, I choose to marry him again.
One of the best wishes we received after our ceremony was from a middleaged couple from Nate's family in England; that they hoped our marriage would be as happy as theirs was, when we'd been together as long as they had. And even though we haven't been married quite five years, I wish that for John and Nievita: I hope they have the joy in each other that we have, every day for the rest of all our lives.
Katlyn & John's wedding was yesterday. Managed to get a wee bit of stuff done in the morning before getting prettied up and on the road. Much cell-phone CB talk going on which caused us to initially pass up our exit. After a few circles and more phone calls, we got there in plenty of time. I had the pleasure of carnation pinning with the help of Jennifer and that was fun. Plus it allowed me to snag a white carnation (men) instead of a red one (women) as the white showed up much more nicely against my sparkly red blouse.
The ceremony itself was really nice although I think I will always prefer the one at my own wedding. Minister nicely covered during the unity candle lighting (made awkward by the spring breezes) which made up for his (to my mind unseemly) long dwelling on the possibility of marriage problems & divorce and his "personal challenge" to us to help the couple if such problems come up in their future. Their vows were very nice and the emotion and devotion of the bride & groom was beautiful and touching.
The reception was nice once we switched around the (thankfully, quite fluid) seating, with really yummy food and great company. I love my friends, and it was so nice to chat and visit with them on such a happy day. Things wound down a little earlier than expected as some of those that had to leave early triggered others to go. Nate & I stayed longer to help with the cleaning up and left for home just before 9:00.
I mentioned to Nate that my perceptions of weddings have changed now that I'm a married woman. I used to enjoy weddings, and I'd think about how I'd want mine to be when the day came, and what I'd want different and what I'd want the same. Now, I don't have any of those thoughts, since my wedding day has come and gone. Instead, every ceremony is a new promise to make, a renewal of our vows and a reminder of everything that marriage means. When the officials talk about what love is, what marriage is, what it means to compromise & to care... he's talking about the bride & groom, but he's talking about us too, and I love the way it feels. I know marrying Nate was the right decision for me, because every wedding I attend, I choose to marry him again.
One of the best wishes we received after our ceremony was from a middleaged couple from Nate's family in England; that they hoped our marriage would be as happy as theirs was, when we'd been together as long as they had. And even though we haven't been married quite five years, I wish that for John and Nievita: I hope they have the joy in each other that we have, every day for the rest of all our lives.
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Date: 2003-02-24 03:46 pm (UTC)And I really like your write up... everyone's been saying that everything was great but I know that a few things struck me a bit wierd, like the "homily" portion of the ceremony. Though I didn't think he was alluding to divorce and stuff like that, I did think the whole tone was a bit preachy and John and I both rolled our eyes when he said “Thank the Lord!” (I don’t have a problem with that type of thing personally, but we had very specifically asked him not to say anything like that.) And the unity candle thing… the day before had been pretty calm, though I was prepared for the breezes I thought that the hurricane lanterns would cover for that. Apparently not. *smiles* Though I do think he did a pretty good job of ad-libbing for us. *sighs* I just –do- wish that his “homily” hadn’t been so… grrr… I dunno. It was just strange, and not at all what I expected from what he had described to me.
You’ve been there, I’m sure you know what I mean when I say that there would be things that I would change, and then again that everything went really well. The seating thing was my fault… I had a seating plan but didn’t bring it with me Friday night and just told my brother to put all the names together that he didn’t recognize. It was one of the things that I thought I would be able to get to Saturday morning (ha!)
I’m still really happy that all of you guys and gals (the sewing crew and respective geek crowd) could all come. It was probably my favorite part of the whole day… just knowing that you were all there for me.